The secret to a successful life is in your daily routine.

The secret to a successful life is in your daily routine.

The secret to a successful life is in your daily routine.

Most people fail to understand this as a rudiment of life. Your daily routine is as important as clarity of vision and plans because your future depends on what you do today. Your daily actions are creating your future, for better or worse.
John Maxwell, a leadership expert said,
“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.”

A friend of mine while growing up together would always say “one stone at a time”. She would say that whenever we were coming back from school and came across a large puddle of water that had stones in it. I didn’t really understand why she would always take the baby steps when she could easily jump the puddle at once or twice but I followed her regardless.



Then, a friend of ours, a daring young boy of ten, joined us one evening after a heavy rain. We came across same puddle that we usually crossed on our way back home. The puddle got bigger and deeper too. The stones were not anywhere in sight. I was sad but curious to see how my friend would cross this puddle when the stones weren’t in sight. She looked back at me and shook her head smiling, she knew what was on my mind. The boy seeing how none of us was jumping the puddle to cross over laughed hard at how girly we were. I saw it wasn’t possible to jump such puddle at once, so I dared him. He said nothing but was ready to prove his strength. He jumped the puddle and never got his feet wet. Surprisingly, he got his body wet instead. He had jumped successfully but couldn’t keep his balance as he fell over his heels into the muddy puddle. I couldn’t resist laughing so hard. My friend comes up to where we stood apart from each other and dropped four big stones to my feet. Taking one stone at a time, she crossed the puddle urging me to use the remaining two stones to cross over just like she did. I did and we crossed successfully with only a dirty hand…lol.



However, the funny childhood experience had a lot of wisdom packed in it. Sometimes we laugh hard about it but it changed the view I had of life. Consistency mattered. My friend who believed in “one stone at a time” didn’t just start putting her hands in to locate the stones since she must’ve gotten used to where the stones where. She thought outside the box while applying the knowledge of what she already knew about. She knew that using two big stones was better and that even if it would take her time to cross the puddle, she will eventually cross it.

Unlike my daring friend who thought that everything was a matter of having the strength or the upper hand, it was at a point but was useless if one didn’t have a balance. He had no balance which was why his efforts became useless seeing him get drenched in the muddy water. For one to be completely successful at something, you need to learn, to master, be consistent in every aspect of your life. If you aren’t consistent, you will eventually fail or not do so well. Sometimes, it’s not about how much money you have and are willing to spend nor about how intelligent and smart you can be, sometimes being familiar with how something works is important.

Finally, the watcher (me). Most people are the watchers in life, we wait for things to come to us, we wait on people we should challenge or, for people to challenge us before we can actually start doing something for ourselves. I waited on my friend to think something up before we could cross and dared my other friend to cross so I could tell if it was possible. It might work out but we just leave ourselves dormant and passive without being active in anything.

Challenge yourself today, do something good and productive you have never done in a long time and keep at it. Don’t ever quit, trust me on how encouraged and happy you will be with yourself.

 

Suicide: A global phenomenon

Suicide: A global phenomenon

Suicide

“Did you know that close to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds?”

Suicide is a global phenomenon and it occurs daily. It is the intentional killing of oneself. Suicide killing was traced back to 434 BC through the story of an early Greek historian, Empedocles. He believed that death was a transformation, therefore he threw himself into the Sicilian volcano in Mount Etna. Other ancient legendaries like Ajax the Great, who killed himself in a Trojan war and Lucretia whose suicide around 510 B.C initiated the revolt that displaced the Roman kingdom with the Roman Republic. The view of suicide started changing during the Renaissance era. People who were scared of eternal damnation as constituted by the church as penalty for suicide committed crimes that it’s penalty would be death sentence.




However, in this 21st century, people no longer care about ‘damnation’. They intentionally kill themselves either by poisoning, hanging, fire arms, drug overdose or even through stabbing themselves. Each time, new strategies for committing suicide trend. It is sad that some suicide victims kill themselves over issues that can be easily resolved had they opened up to someone they trust.

Reasons for committing suicide are not particular. One thing still stands out, suicide is a cankerworm that has eaten deep into the society. No one is spared. Adults and teenagers all commit suicide. Scientists prove that depression is the last stage to develop suicidal thoughts. In psychotherapy and psychiatry, depression is a period of unhappiness or low morale which lasts longer than several weeks in an individual. Some things that can lead to depression include, lack of self love, lack of accomplishment in life, feeling worthless, lack of love and understanding among peers or people you care about, lack of happiness, dissatisfaction at how one’s life turned out to be and so many others. Anything can lead to that feeling of depression, if one isn’t on guard always, on the trail of their emotions. Other factors that can lead to one having suicidal thoughts include; sexual abuse, unwanted pregnancy, testing positive to a killer disease, cyber bullying, financial loss, loss of loved ones, relationship breakups and so many others.

The rate at which this suicide is committed is alarming. People no longer want to find things that make them happy. Just that slightest feeling of sadness, they are already having suicidal thoughts. A lot of individuals also trigger this in people through their response to a question or attitude towards the emotionally drained individual which can easily push them to committing suicide.

Love is the most important aspect in regulating the rate of suicide being committed. Parents should learn to shower their children with so much love. Correct them when something wrong has been done but then correct them with love. Teachers should learn to stop criticising the slow learners publicly, thereby killing their self confidence. The society at large should learn to stop bullying or believing unfounded news by fake blogs thereby indulging in hate speech. A lot of people are very emotional and go through a lot behind close doors.

Life is hard already. People should learn to be kind to one another and avoid talking down on anyone. Depression is real and a lot of individuals especially young adults are victims. The government should set up campaigns to help enlighten people better on the harmful aspect of suicide and how it affects people you leave behind.

Depressed individuals are advised to find things that make their life meaningful. If one can afford it, go on vacations, visit nice places, have wonderful meals, tell people you love that you love them, do things that excites you. One can also confide in someone they trust and discuss about their feelings and get the help they need. Change your circle of friends if they drain your energy. Most importantly, turn to your creator in this trying time. Everyone is special. No one is a mistake. Until you start making yourself happy, no one can really give you that happiness you deserve.

If you are contemplating suicide please contact a suicide prevention organisation close to you immediately for guidance.

Samaritans , NHS 🇬🇧

Great Commission movement of Nigeria 🇳🇬

National suicide prevention lifeline 🇺🇸

Nollywood Movies, Negatively or Positively Influencing the Youths?

Nollywood Movies, Negatively or Positively Influencing the Youths?

Nollywood Movies, Negatively or Positively Influencing the Youths?

Did you know that Nollywood was given its name by a journalist, Norimtsu Onishi, which means “nothing wood” or rather, “creating something out of nothing”. This was because the movies created in the 1960’s were said to be created under volatile and unpredictable circumstances, with near impossible production environments.

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Is Social media good or bad for teenagers?

Is Social media good or bad for teenagers?

Is Social media good or bad for teenagers?

Social media has encompassed the globe and most things have been done with regards to the media. It has both the positive and negative aspect. Young people are more inclined to the use of social media like; Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, WeChat, dating sites and so many other forms of the media. It has emerged as the most important medium to pass an information greatly.

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Why Nigerian Celebrities Should Embrace Internet Publicity.

Why Nigerian Celebrities Should Embrace Internet Publicity.

Why Nigerian Celebrities Should Embrace Internet Publicity.

Social media no doubt has connected the world digitally with a staggering online community that keeps tab on every single move of any individual, company, business or organisation. Different vibes and content are shared online which proves to be an influence in marketing, brand establishment, individual or group popularity, personalising one’s brand and getting them the desired publicity and many more.

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